why it's important to luxuriate

(this is in reference to the video i posted two posts back)

recently i have been stressed about a multitude of things. school is always a struggle and then there is personal life struggles to get in the way. sometimes the only way to feel better is to

(parks and recreation reference)

now treating yourself, doesn't have to come in the form of buying things, but rather taking the time out of your day to "luxuriate." to make your self feel worth it. to feel special. this may seem overrated but you cannot judge it until you try. take an extra long shower. go to bed a bit earlier so you can get up earlier and pamper yourself before work or school. personally, i like to allow myself enough time to pick out a nice outfit and do my makeup. if doing your makeup is a hassle and annoyance, dont do it!! i love putting makeup on, which is why i make sure i have time to do it. there is something so relaxing about it. suddenly all of my problems drift away while i pat on my creamy eye shadow. i probably sound extremely superficial right now but you've got to trust me on this. im not falling into the stereotype of a girl who cant walk out of the house without a layer of makeup packed on. ive got anough confidence and pride to walk out in sweatpants a sweatshirt and not an ounce of makeup. the point is not to impress others or present myself a certain way. its all for me. it makes me happy. it calms me. 

at night, ive created a routine for myself. i wash my face, i take my makeup off with a nice makeup remover that i treated myself to, i use a rose-scented toner to refresh my face and i lather on a thick and creamy lotion to cuddle my face as i fall asleep. routines give comfort in the sense that nothing is going to change unless you want it to. its something you can depend on. 

the point of all of my rambling was to let you guys know that it is important to take time out of your day to TREAT YO SELF. you need to give your body what it deserves. do something that will allow you to forget about everything else, even if it is only for a few minutes. 

i love you all <3

being nice

right now i am very frustrated with school. for some odd reason, i constantly find myself asking the question "why can't you just be nice?" i ask myself this question and think to myself what could possibly give someone the urge to be out right mean. thus far i have failed to come up with a plausible reason, so for right now i will go with some possibilities that may make you laugh:

1) they really have to go to the bathroom and everyone knows that going to the bathroom in school sucks

2) they are really sweaty and smelly from that horrific 20 minute run in gym class

3) they really like your outfit but instead of just complimenting it, the more rational thing to do would be to say something mean

4) they walked out of the house with a little bit of toothpaste on the edge of their mouth and their best friend pointed it out to them as they were walking into school

5) the lunch room did not have their favorite type of chips

as you can see, these possibilities are just ridiculous. although these may not actually be the motivations behind someone's rudeness, being mean for no apparent reason is just as ridiculous.

the moral of the story: you never know what someone is going through on a day to day basis and what struggles they have had to overcome/are overcoming. mean actions and rude behavior is completely unnecessary. i feel so stupid writing this blog post because i seems as if i am teaching children how to be nice to each other, yet everything im saying is true. i guess some high schoolers never learned adequate social skills in elementary school when the rest of us did. 

they may be the smartest, prettiest, most athletic person in the whole school but they could also be the meanest. when it comes down to it, after high school, no one is going to care whether or not you got an a in ap us history, or whether or not you were the star of the lacrosse team. what matters is your social skills and your ability to connect to other human beings.

***i do not own these pictures***

i hope those of you who have been bullied like myself can take something away from this.. maybe a good laugh (although now that i look back on this it wasnt very funny) or just some comfort to know that you are not alone 

luxuriating (more to come soon)

dont forget to luxuriate ;)